Last week a woman joined Girl Code Daily and told me something I hear more than almost anything else. She is doing her GLP-1 journey alone, and she wanted support. That was it. No big story attached, just a plain sentence from someone who was tired of carrying this by herself, and it is the reason this post exists.
Because if that is you, if you are reading this on your phone after everyone else has gone to bed and you have nobody in your real life who gets what this is actually like, I want you to know you are not the only one, and you do not have to keep doing it that way.
Alone doesn't always mean nobody knows. Sometimes it means nobody gets it.
Alone looks different for everyone
When women tell me they're doing this alone, they almost never mean the same thing. Sometimes it's one of these, and sometimes it's all of them at once:
You haven't told anyone. Not your mom, not your friends, maybe not even your partner, so every win and every hard week stays in your own head.
You told people, and they don't get it. They know you're on a GLP-1, but they don't know what it's like when the scale hasn't moved in three weeks or when food noise shows up at 9 p.m.
Your people are supportive, but they aren't doing it. They cheer you on, and you love them for it, but they can't tell you what helped them, because they've never been there.
Nobody around you is on one. There's no friend at work to compare notes with and nobody to text when something weird happens.
You're the one everyone leans on. You hold it together for everybody else, so it feels strange to need someone to hold it together for you.
Every one of those is real, and none of them means you're doing anything wrong. It just means you're carrying more of it on your own than you should have to.
I told everyone, and it could still feel lonely
I have never kept my GLP-1 a secret. I started talking about it back in 2023, when I was so early that most people had no idea what I was even talking about. So you would think I'd be the last person who felt alone in this, and that's exactly why I want to be honest about it.
Telling people gave me honesty, and I'm glad I did it. What it didn't give me was people who knew what this felt like from the inside, the weeks when the number sat still and I had to decide whether to keep going, or the days when I did everything right and still felt like I was failing at it. Being known and being understood are two very different things, and I didn't really feel that difference until I had both.
Telling people gave me honesty. Finding my people gave me a reason to keep going.
I've lost over 75 pounds, and I still have weight to lose. That stretch in between, where the start is long gone and the finish is nowhere close, is the part I call the invisible phase, and it's exactly where doing this alone gets the heaviest. The excitement of starting has worn off, nobody is asking how it's going anymore, and you're still out here doing the work every single day.
If you're doing this alone right now, start here
This isn't a plan, and you don't have to do all of it. These are just the things I'd want someone to tell me if I were sitting where you are.
Find one place where you don't have to explain. You don't need a big group or a whole support system. You need one spot where you can say "the scale went up and I don't know why" without getting a lecture back.
Let somebody see your real number. Not your best day, your actual day. There's something about saying it out loud to people who get it that takes away a lot of its power.
Check in on the boring days too. Most of this happens on days with nothing to report. Those are the days it's easiest to quietly disappear, and the days showing up matters the most.
Stop waiting until you feel like you deserve support. You don't have to hit a milestone first, or be doing it perfectly, or be further along. You're allowed to need people right now, exactly where you are.
The part of this you can't do alone
Every Sunday, our members post their weigh-ins in the comments, and lately I keep seeing the same thing over and over. When I ask what keeps them showing up when the scale is slow, the answer isn't a food, or a workout, or a dose. It's each other. It's knowing someone is going to notice if they go quiet, and that someone else is in the exact same week they are.
That's what I want for you. Not more willpower or a stricter plan, just people. This month inside Girl Code Daily we're doing No Ghosting November, a daily check-in challenge where the whole point is that nobody disappears, even on the bad days. Especially on the bad days.
So tell me, are you doing this alone right now, or do you have someone who really gets it? You can answer in one word if that's all you've got today. I'll read every single one.
You're not on your own anymore,
Nyk
✨ Why join Girl Code Daily? ✨
Nobody around you gets it? Everybody in here does.
Every day inside Girl Code Daily we do this together: the Sunday Weigh In, Monday Focus, the Wednesday Check In, Friday Wins, a printable every Saturday, and this month, No Ghosting November, with women who are living the same thing you are. Here's a little of what members have been reading:
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Do the rest of it on your own if you want. Just not this part.
I'm not a doctor. This is my personal experience, not medical advice. Please talk to your prescriber about anything related to your medication or health.